Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

Cutting the bullshit out

December 7, 2011

     A friend of a good friend recently shared her vision of commitment with the following statement: “the committed should be committed.” Indeed and as a matter of fact, we all have got to take care of our individual life. We’ve got to know long term who we really want as a life companion, lover, best friend, soul and house mate… And finally we’ve got to know how we want to be treated, we’ve to have the control of our own life to then find and/or keep around that special person we care about and that in our opinion just fit in a box regardless of what the others say.

         It took me ages to realise what was wrong but one thing is sure, nobody needs to be 100% attached to someone else to be happy. It’s masochism to suffering or causing pain by this insane idea of happiness is a 24/7 love-attention-care. It’s seriously wrong! So once again I’m enjoying and loving myself at first and this is not a sign of selfishness. It’s a strong sign of self-improvement and maturity instead. Above of all I guess it is me backing to my old-self.  Amen!

      Right now I risk to say I find myself into some kind of “healthy devotion relationship” instead of a “needy sticky one”.  Yes I’m still in a relationship, the same one I’ve been in since the beginning of 2010. People might be wondering and even asking around if G.N.B. and I had split up. Nice try but NO! WE DID NOT SPLIT UP! We’re still as a couple, being boyfriend and girlfriend, and of course into an exclusive relationship! The only thing that’s changed is the fact that now we are living our lives without being so paranoid or jealous with each other. So yes, we go out with other people still we are faithful to each other. We don’t speak everyday still we keep sharing our news regularly. So for the record we are fine, TOGETHER and looking forward to our future plans to become true.

        And despite the distance and sporadic pain in the ass this long distance relationship is I stand where I say: be committed is one of the best things in the world if we are committed to ourselves in first place because nobody can really love someone who doesn’t love yourself starting from that. So in the end I learnt that it is totally fine to sometimes take a step back, slow down a bit and miss the other person, realise what’s wrong and work to fix it. It allow us to make the best decisions for the future. And to me G.N.B. is still perfectly fitting in a box!

Waiting sometimes is necessary. I kinda miss you.

…though nothing best than dedicate myself to being the person I’ve always wanted to be, before I forget who I was.

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Boys says… | Short Manual | part XV

July 10, 2010

The 40 things that Girls cannot even imagine being sexy…

1- Bra strap on display
2- Freckles on the face
3- Smudged mascara
4- Breasts that fills the hand – not too big, not too small
5- Messy hair on the morning
6- Radiant smile
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Moan during sex
8- Biting lip and ‘frown’
9- Strong personality
10-
Read lying on her stomach with the feet up
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Pubic hair off
12- Haircut with bangs
13 – Intelligence, sympathy and self-sufficiency
14- Glasses
15- Flaccidity in the inner thigh (boys love to squeeze there!)
16- White t-shirt or dress
17- Jogging with headphones
18- Shake gently the hair with fingers while talk
19- Little feet
20- Skirt on the knees
21- Sweat gym class
22- Tie the hair anyway
23- Play and bit with the pen in the mouth
24- Hair in the wind
25- Cross-legged
26- String panties
27- Initiative / attitude in bed
28- Arranging the panties in the street and do that with charm to not let anyone see
29- Teddy bear
30- Read magazine or newspaper on the subway taking a coffee
31- Cry out of anger
32- Brush teeth
33- Eating and soiling
34- Funny pyjamas
35- Masturbation
36- Heels in the bed (outside either)
37- Look away and blush
38- Sexy lingerie and pantyhose
39- Wet hair
40- Cotton panties

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Short Manual | part XIII

July 8, 2010

Arguments & Misunderstandings

…definitely they are two things that everyone has, especially into relationships built on words in the wind
But you may still have time to wake-up if:

The more you do, the less you have.
The less you get, the more you fight.
The more you argues, the more you feels unsatisfeid, the less you understand or cares about.
Consequently, the more you have misunderstandings, the less you want to move further within.
What basicly means the less you feel motivated to love and be loved the more close to ending you are.

Yes, the truth is just simple like that: is never too late to change while you are alive! So stop to complain, rise your ass, do whatever must to be done and move on (in case you aren’t happy with who you are now). Ok, I know, sometimes the problem is to find out a way to realize it at time.

Yeah, the fucking damn problem is always try to racionalize feelings…
Well, good luck to you too!

P.s: The opposite apply perfect (the more you receive the more you do in return)!

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Argues: if it is unavoidable, always do your best!

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Short Manual | part XI

July 1, 2010

First of all I’m very pleased to start July updating my Short Manual About Boys and Girls’, uniting on this two subjects that interest me enough: theories regarding relationships and nerds stuff (although it was Brian idea, if you liked it, please thank him, not to me okay?!)
And btw before I forget, thank you so much Brian once again (whoever you are), for those genial words rebloged right below. Talking seriously, his Blog grabbed my attention at the first saw, so my compliments strange! You seem a nice person.

^-^

HERE WE GO:

Of Startups and Girlfriends (by Brian Krausz)

I’ve often heard the saying ‘being married to your work’, and I frequently consider the similarities between startups and relationships. For one, on any given day I’m mulling around a few ideas for startups, and most days my thoughts also lead to my lack of a girlfriend and possibly solutions to that situation. There are many things that are nearly identical when it comes to the ‘game’ (as so many, excluding myself, like to call it) of dating and the process of forming a startup. Allow me to elaborate:

his idea, just with a 'small correction'

All joking aside, I do think that this is a notable thing: if you expect to have a steady relationship while working on a startup, 9 times out of 10 one of the two will fail. You need to have an amazing devotion to both, very understanding co-founders/significant other and full acceptance of the fact that your sleep will suffer double the amount it normally would. I do have a possible solution, though it takes a certain type: date your co-founder (or co-found with your significant other). This only works with 2 founders (being the 3rd+ wheel is never fun…). It seems to be a wonderful test of a relationship. If two people can spend nearly all day together with very little sleep working on what has been called ‘an emotional rollercoaster’ by many and not end up killing each other (sounds like a reality TV show…) it must speak volumes of their bond. Don’t we look for similar qualities from our co-founders and our significant others, trust, honesty, devotion, ability to put up with them for long periods of time, sense of humor.
The only difference from my point of view is whether or not gender plays a role. I even submit that there must be a certain chemistry between co-founders, similar to romance but without the lust. This does create a whole new slew of problems though. Double the stress, emotion, and time spent together, add a touch of competitiveness. Hell, while we’re at it, throw in some romance and programming. Gives a whole new meaning to the phrase ‘late night at the office’. So, any young entrepreneurial women looking for a good time co-founder?

Disclaimer for those looking to form a startup: The above was written with a strong sense of humor and mild sarcasm in mind. If you are offended by anything I say, or even consider, for a moment, taking me seriously, how can you ever expect to survive months working day and night with the same people (dating or otherwise)? Really, laugh a little, you’ll live longer.

Note: As I said, I do not own this post,
it belongs to its rightful owner! Yeah,  I was too lazy this time
to write my own one, so you can give a look if you want,
at the original source right here:  Nerdlife.net

XO, Me and Myself



How to ‘read’ BOYS

June 9, 2010

When a Boy is quiet… he is just quiet.
When a Boy is not arguing… he thinks he is ‘right’ or he is just avoiding unnecessary troubles.
When a Boy looks at you with eyes full of questions… is beacuse he have many things to say to you but don’t had yet the courage to do; or he is just thinking about everything around him and that probably other things are envolved too, despite of you.
When a Boy answers I’m fine after a few seconds… he is definitely fine.
When a Boy does a question like Are you fine?… he is being kind and praying for one simple yes, I’m instead of hear lots of complains.
When a Boy doesn’t ask you anything… its because he trusts you and knows that you are pretty fine. Otherwise, if there is something wrong, Girls would starts to do lots of random questions…
When a Boy stares at you… it means he feels something for; it means he really can see you as you are for him.
When a Boy lays on your legs… he is wishing for you to be there quiet, enjoying this rare moment with him.
When a Boy says I will be waiting for you… it means well, I’m not sure but I’ll try to do that ok? or I still likes you, but you know sooner or later another one will appears and I will go after her (Girls don’t take so longer to get ready, to decide, or to come back to him… Sometimes it could be too late, Boys cannot wait forever; they don’t know how to do that!!!).
When a Boy wants to see you everyday… he is jealous and insecure or he is absolutely crazy for you.
When a Boy doesn’t make you lots of questions… it means he totally trust on you or are too busy to do that, or simply he doesn’t care anymore about anything.
When a Boy says I love you… he might doing some confusion between likes someone, and loves the one or he wants to make sex with you soon as possible no matters who you are or what he feels for you.
When a Boy says I miss you or I need you… it means that you can ‘brighten’ his world and sometimes means also I would love to make sex with you right now.
And as I’d said to Girls one time ago I’ll repeat now to you Boys:
Life only comes around once, so try to make sure that you’re spending it with the right person…
Go out, have fun and ‘fun’ (why not…); do whatever you want to do with no regrets; find someone else who… calls you when necessary, instead of 5 times a day.
Someone who calls you back when you hang up on them… and that start a descent conversation, instead of start to screaming at you without good reasons …
…who will stays awake just to watch you sleeping;
…who will wait for you late at night when you get back home from the office or from a pub;
…who will wants to hug you out when you were in your sweats without mind that much;
…who is constantly reminding you of how much she cares about but letting you free to hanging out with friends and to do ‘boys stuff’ since you respect her.
…who don’t make drama if you had a contretemps in a special day and cancel/change her plans.
…who don’t push you everyday to meet her parents as soon as possible.
…who can keep the relationship in privacy, instead of shows you to all her friends trying to make her friends jealous in case you are really really handsome, and cute, and gentle, the most perfect as no one has does before.

So Girls stop to wonder about boy’s reactions… Sometimes they are saying / doing exactly what they are meant to, so let’s relax. Don’t push them to high or too fast, enjoy what you have, don’t try never to change him , and remember: the important here isn’t about the future; is all about the present! About the future ‘nobody knows’ as they ussualy says…
But please Boys, do not start to abuse of our patience ok?!

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do you still remember how?

#How to ‘read’ GIRLS

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Short Manual | part VI

June 9, 2010

I might don’t know many things about boys… or neither about girls.
Actually, I do not know anything of anyone!
I guess that I just know about ‘Me’ and ‘Myself’, but apart from that, I just have a few theories about all the others. I will not be pretentious that much to think that I can change the world writing bullshits as I often do; or that my texts will change someone somehow. And no I’m not even pretending to have the power to change their beliefs; I don’t need those things, and I don’t want to do that, not yet, or perhaps never at all.
I’m conscious into myself that people are all the time changing and exchanging some ‘similar experiences’ (good and bad ones), also showing their wills and sharing their opinions… and I’m doing the same here, Im just expressing some of my thoughts for those who want to read it.
Well, is interesting to observe people, analyze those reactions and how they do has learned about something,
I’ve living to learn what I do not have learned before; to teach and be taught. I like to share my experiences, and to hear the others experiences and as this way I can try to dare myself to always do something new.
Anyway, this is not about me it’s about my short manual…

So, my ‘epic’ manual about boys and girls should be consider as a funny fiction story; a kind of tragic comics… as a play between boys vs. girls and obviously it’s too stupid to be taken 100% as serious or even real, but might to help you somehow (in case you agreed with me or especially if you believe in everything you read on internet).
My tip for you now, is go outside get what you really want; have fun; keep smiling (and learn most as you can!)
Never forget, we just live once so pls:

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~You Boys: give the chance to girls makes you happy for long periods… we are not disposable; we have feelings and it’s idiocy from you to have girls just for ‘seasons’... Start to think about quality not quantity! We don’t want to be ‘the sunny summer girl’ or whatever, we just want to be your girlfriends, and your special ones for a while or forever as long it lasts. We want to be real girlfriends as meant to be and be that means at first and above of all to be your friend! So don’t cheat with us, don’t make us losing time and foremost don’t break our hearts!!!

~ We Girls: let’s try to forgive more and don’t take every stupid act as so provocative or personal; let’s take it easy with them and being patient most as we can. Let’s let them know how we feel but is important to have first learned how to explain that in a ‘simple way’… (unfortunately, boys are ‘steps back’ regarding ‘feelings’). So lets just count till ten again and have fun, because it’s a long way…

Useful tip: never forget life is too short to regret anything, so both of you just love with all your heart and cry with all your souls (if and when necessary)

Can we have a deal?
Let’s together make it worth!
Isn’t it so difficult right?!

Short Manual | part III

June 2, 2010

~When a Girl thinks of her future with her boyfriend it means perfectly n-o-r-m-a-l.

~But when a Boy thinks of his future with his girlfriend he is serious and it means r-a-r-e.

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things that they will never learn...

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Short Manual | part II

May 31, 2010

~Girls know that falling in love is a quite of easy to do sometimes
(especially if the boy is cute and nice)

~Boys knows that the challenge is staying together …
(no matter how interesting and ‘special’ she can be)

Both agree that: love is a ‘bittersweet’ lie, and life is just a game that they still don’t know how to play

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sad but true...

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